Sharing with someone you trust

Tended is your private journal. Sharing is entirely optional, off by default, and always under your control. Nothing is ever sent automatically.

How sharing is organised

More › Sharing / Self-care is grouped into three sections so you can find what you need fast:

• Carer connection — the live link with someone who looks after you. Share with Carer, Quick Needs, and Between us all live here and only appear when a carer connection is active. • Reference cards — personal references you maintain for yourself, share when you choose (How I’m Doing, What Helps, My Flare Plan, Emergency Info Card). • Periodic summary — the scheduled PDF digest (Regular Summary).

Share with Carer

Share your day rating, energy, sleep, and flare status with a carer or family member in real time via the Supported app. Your journal text and personal details are never shared. See the dedicated Share with Carer help topic for full details.

Quick Needs (Tell my carer)

Once Share with Carer is active, send a single-tap signal — “I need quiet,” “I need water,” “I need help” — from the timeline, your Apple Watch, or Siri. Designed for flare days where opening a conversation is too much. See the dedicated Quick Needs help topic.

Between us

A two-way private journal you and a paired carer can both write in — short notes, encouragement, things to remember between visits. It sits inside the carer connection because it only makes sense once someone is paired; if you turn off Carer connection, Between us disappears with it. Your main journal stays private as always.

How I’m Doing

A simple traffic light — green, amber, or red — that shows how you’re doing right now. Tended can suggest a level based on your day rating and energy, or you can set it yourself. Add an optional short message. Share as an image via Messages, or show it on your home screen widget.

My Flare Plan

A personal reference card you write when you’re feeling well so it’s ready when you need it. Lives in the Reference Cards section. During a flare, open it from More › Sharing / Self-care or from the Flare Mode screen — text is shown large and high-contrast. See the dedicated My Flare Plan help topic.

Emergency Info Card

A printable card with your conditions, current medications (including doses, schedules, and taper plans), allergies, and emergency contacts. Auto-populated from your journal data so it’s always up to date. Export as PDF or add as a Lock Screen widget.

Regular Summary (Tended+)

A scheduled summary — daily or weekly — that you can share with someone you trust. Includes your capacity history, how you’ve been doing, top symptoms, and medication adherence. Journal reflections are never included. Generated via Background App Refresh and saved to iCloud Drive for you to share when you’re ready. Requires Tended+.

What Helps

An auto-generated reference showing foods, activities, medications, and other items that appeared more often in your better-day records. It does not establish that an item is safe, helpful, or effective. Share it as a PDF when the observation is useful for discussion or planning.

Condition Translator

Generate a plain-language explanation of your condition tailored to a doctor, employer, or friend. Based on your actual journal data. See the dedicated Condition Translator help topic for full details.

Shared Notes on Appointments

When sharing is enabled, your appointment details include a Shared Notes section. Someone you trust can add their observations or questions. You review everything before including it in your health report.

Privacy

You control everything. Sharing is opt-in per feature, there are no linked accounts or profiles, and nothing is sent without your action. Your journal text, reflections, and raw entries are never shared. You can turn sharing off at any time — the section simply disappears.